Relationship & Separation Counselling for Individuals
Virtual & In-Person Relationship Counselling in Vancouver, BC
Relationships & Separations
Empathetic support and practical skills to help you navigate your relationship.
Partnering can be one of the most beautiful experiences in our lives. But sometimes we let old patterns get in the way of living in alignment with our values.
Some of the topics that we can explore in relationship counselling include:
- making new connections
- uncovering how abuse and trauma could be affecting your emotional attachment and behaviour
- re-entering the dating world after a separation
- navigating co-parenting
- avoiding unhelpful patterns in relationships
- relationships that are making you feel stuck, and how to move forward
I offer individual counselling to help navigate relationships. At this time, I do not offer couples counselling but I would be happy to make a referral. Feel free to reach out for an introductory call or to connect with me further.
I provide empathetic support and practical skills to help you navigate your changing relationship.
Together we will identify old patterns that get in the way of living in alignment with our values and build a new path forward.
Frequently Asked Questions
Being in relationship with others makes us uniquely human. When those relationships feel exhausting, broken, or missing, counselling can help you to find new ways of connection.
Together we can look at your patterns and find new ways to be in relationship. Patterns are useful because they keep us moving in directions that has always felt safe. They are like deep veins in the earth, created by groundwater flowing for months and years. To start changing these paths, we have to let the water move differently.
In relationships, this means noticing the pattern without judgement, and understanding of how it came to be. With this awareness, we can mindfully choosing alternatives without disrupting our sense of safety.
I will not try to influence or direct your decision about whether to stay in or to leave your relationship. If you are at risk of or experiencing harm, I may have some strong recommendations about next steps, but I recognize that all relationships are complicated.
Navigating the decision to leave a relationship takes time, and you the process is not linear. Some days you may want to stay and others you may want to leave. Together we will move through the process of change, without pressure to move forward at any particular speed. We will work on your sense of safety in your mind and body, so that change feels tolerable and accessible. With time and attention, you will know what feels right.
Leaving a relationship can be one of the most stressful experiences in a person's life. Together we'll talk about how to move through relationship change, whether it is separation or plans for repair. If you choose to leave the relationship, we will discuss a network of support and strategies to keep your nervous system regulated during this time.
Leaving the safety of a relationship can put a lot of stress on the body, and it's important to acknowledge that everything you're feeling - even though sometimes those feelings might be in conflict with one another - is important.
I do not offer couples counselling at this time, but I would be happy to refer you to a counsellor within my trusted network. It is not generally recommended for clients to see the same person for individual and couples counselling.
At this time, I do not offer mitigation services. People who work in dispute resolution typically have specialized training that can help you navigate the judicial system and family court. Working with a mitigator is an excellent idea for people going through separation and who want to maintain a good relationship with their former partner. I recommend looking at the Collaborative Divorce Vancouver website if you are looking for someone to mitigate.